This week I realized that someone who didnt know me might think I was homophobic.
But those who know me, know that I am far from it.
But the truth is, I think the pendulum has swung too far. We’ve reached the other apex. We’ve gone from a world where discriminating against gays is considered bigotry to one where simply disagreeing with the opinion of a gay or lesbian gets you labeled as bigot.
And I’m not sure I like it much.
Recently, in the town of Marlton, NJ, some parents gathered together to voice their displeasure at finding out their 3rd graders had been shown a documentary on gay and lesbian parents and their children. The parents all objected to the fact that they had not been told beforehand that the documentary would be shown, and in fact, did not even get a chance to see it themselves until weeks later.
These parents were labelled as “bigots” all over social media. My Facebook wall was spinning from my gay, lesbian and LGTBQ friendly friends denouncing the parents for what they saw as closed mindedness.
Truth is, when I heard the story, I agreed with the parents.
I’m the father of a 3rd grader. I don’t believe it is the schools job to teach my child tolerance or morality. The school is there to teach my son math, science, the humanities. Leave the morality and tolerance to me. And at the very least, I believe that the decision on when and if my child is mature enough to be taught about sexuality is MY concern. Not his teachers.
Now, I know some people who read this will instantly jump to the extreme. “Yeah, but what about parents who teach their children bigotry? The school needs to teach the alternative!” or “What about the children of oppressive parents who repress sexuality and use the mores of Puritanism to teach their kids the ideals of bygone eras? These kids are at risk!!!”
Yeah. Whatever. So are we going to go kick down the doors of the Amish too, because they don’t agree either? No? Didn’t think so.
Sexuality, tolerance and bigotry aside, America’s schools consistently lag behind other countries in standardized test scores. We spend more time worrying about whether Johnny is being nice to Joey (who has two daddys) or whether Johnny is drawing violent pictures on his notebook (remember Columbine!) or whether Johnny has (and has been instructed in the proper use of), a condom.
What happened to making sure Johnny can READ? Making sure Johnny can do MATH? Making sure Johnny is ready to compete in an increasingly more technological world?
Here’s a idea…..
Overload Johnny on homework and lessons and knowledge….keep him SO busy he doesn’t have time to wonder who is sticking what sexual organ where. Maybe if we pushed our kids to learn and excel at learning with the same zeal we pursue other agendas like sexuality, gender bias, religion and the like, we’d find that we cured far more problems in this world.
Unpopular idea I am sure.